Almost everyone has lost a loved one. We lost our baby during pregnancy in 2007. The pain we felt can’t be described and it took me a long time to allow myself to grieve properly. Shortly after we moved to Canada I attended a grief workshop which helped set me on the road to acceptance and healing.
At the workshop, amongst other things, I learned:
- No one grieves exactly as you do.
- Don’t compare your experience with that of other people.
- Don’t make assumptions about how long your grief will last.
- Take a “day-at-a-time” approach that lets you grieve at your own pace.
I was also reminded that:
- Memories are one of the best legacies given us after someone we love dies.
- We need to treasure them and share them.
- Whether they make us laugh or cry, memories are a lasting part of the relationship that we had with that very special person.
I had already started a traditional scrapbook of Morgan’s very brief life but found that I wanted something smaller to hold on those days I just wanted to remember and not let go – but it’s hard to carry a 12×12 scrapbook in your purse! So through Heritage Makers, a digital memory book company I created a couple of 5×5 books and somewhere along the way whilst I created them I found healing.
If you would like to view the books in full just click the image to link to a slideshow of the project:
Moments are Fleeting
Being your Mommy – the words in this book are a poem written by Christie Hoos which I found on the internet some time ago which captured so exactly how I felt (Noah’s Place)
If you would like to create your own remembrance book I can help you. Contact me and we can discuss how best to do create your ideal record of your memories.
I have no formal counseling qualifications but I am a Reiki Level II practioner and have studied EFT to Level II and I am willing to share with you, either one on one or with a friend, my own life experiences to help you create your own book that will help you celebrate your loved one’s life. You won’t get it done in a day and you don’t have to have me with you all of the time, however, whilst you are with me there will be tea or coffee, tears and tissues, but most of all there will be the love you bring to your project and the love you shared with the one who has passed.
The tears and laughter along the way are inevitable but at the end of it you will have a lasting record of your memories of your loved one and you will have moved forward on your path to healing and acceptance.
Memory retreats can be created to meet your needs, they can be an hour, two or three hours, a day, a weekend – whatever you need. You will need to bring your memories and your photos, either on digital media or as hard copies. If you are bringing hard copies we will scan these onto memory stick or CDs for you to take away – there is an additional charge for this.
Please contact me for more information.
